unequallyyokedIn my 28+ years of being a pastor, I have counseled a lot of people who desire to be married.  One of the things I look for is what is called “unequally yoked.”

When this happens, it is what I have called “trying to plow with an ox and a chihuahua.”  That is a comical description, but it is oh so true.

Over the years I have had a fair number of couples who fit this description, not only spiritually, but in other ways as well.  This is why I often tell couples that for me to marry them, I have to have an opportunity to minister.  In other words, I have to have an opportunity to show them how to get “equally yoked.”

This manifests it self in a variety of ways: 1) being in worship during their entire engagement period; 2) personal counseling session; 3) marriage inventories; and 4) even having them meet with godly couples on a regular basis, etc.

Of course, my goal in this is to put them in a position where the Spirit can work on their hearts to the point that when they marry, they truly become one–and not just physically, but more importantly, spiritually.

Of course, there is more to it than what I have written in this short blog.  And it does not mean that I have not married some “unequally yoked” people and lived to regret it.  But at the same I have seen many couples have wonderful marriages…and ones that continually grows into true oneness!